4/13/17

Ok, I had a long session typed up, and then had to leave my desk for awhile...and someone exited out without saving the material! So, I am going to try and recreate the blog.  If I ramble a little I apologize...I hate wasting time.  As parents we have an obligation to raise our kids, or employ help to do so (as when a kid isn't willing to listen to his parents, or when he has put himself or his family in danger), but what we are NOT allowed to do is stand by and watch and just hope for the best.  Often times as parents we know something is wrong or we see discipline that needs to happen, and we ignore it.  Why do we ignore it?  We are lazy, or we are conflict avoiders, or we simply don't want to cut into our "comfort time" and do something about whatever is going on.  If you don't know what I mean think back a little...your kids are younger and they are fighting in the back room.  Do you get up off the couch (it is after work in the early evening and you finally got to sit down and rest) and go deal with the situation?  Or do you sit there and just hope they quiet down?  Or do you yell for them to be quiet and remain in your seat?  There is a obscure verse in the book of Proverbs that I have to remind myself of daily (between the Future Men boys and my own 14 kids!) it's Proverbs 19:18 states "Discipline your son, for there is hope; don't be a willing part to his death."  That is crazy!  Do you really hear what Solomon is saying?  Don't be responsible or partly responsible to his death!  To sit by and not act act of laziness, lack of experience, conflict avoidance...whatever, is to have a part in his death.  This could be a literal death, or it may be the death of some aspect of his life.  Not teaching him a work ethic, or allowing him to just sit around and not develop job skills is sentencing him to a life of failure - a form of death.  Allowing him to be in and out of sexual relationships or to just lead girls on throughout his "dating career" is to be a willing party to the death of a future marriage.  We have a big responsibility.  When we decided to have children we signed on to a life of DYING to ourselves.  Plain and simple.  There seems to be a death either way!  In Romans Paul talks about people either being a slave of Christ, or a slave to sin...there is no in between.  It's kind of like that here.  We can die to our own fleshly desires and schedules, or we can sign on the the death of our son's.  One death comes with eternal rewards and the approval of our heavenly Father, then other comes with earthly heartache and pain...which will you choose.  I have said this before and I'll say it here again, if you have any questions or want some practical ways in applying the information in these blogs please ask.  Just email me and I will try and make the next blog incorporate your question.  aaronboldman@futuremen.net

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