1/27/17

Just a quick reminder to be reading the books I suggest on our resource page or in these blogs.  If you are not growing your mind you are probably going backward, or possibly just buying into the world's perspective.  I would like to throw a challenge out there to begin to be reshaping your home now, while your son is still here at Future Men, don't just get comfortable now that the main source of drama is gone, be inspired to change things.  This week make a list of the things that most concern or even anger you that are going on in your home.  Here are some possible culprits: music being played; movies being watched; games being played; amount of time on a device, like a phone; the friends who are coming over or who your son goes to see; messes being left for you to clean; tone of voice and words that are being addressed to you; treatment of siblings; disregard to your curfews or lack of cooperation in being where you ask and when...need I go on.  Make a detailed list, then ask yourself who else, besides your own kids, would you ever allow to do any of those things mentioned to you or in your home?  So why do we allow it?  Husbands, who else would you allow your son to so wear down or abuse your wife as your own son has done?  Its about perspective.  We need to step back and look at what we have been allowing for years and just stop.  Placing a son in a program is a brutally hard decision, but not changing things at home and watching it all just come back is worse. You will feel like a failure, and that you have been wasting time and money.  So, there is your assignment.  Now after you have the list lets begin to address the changes needed.  In the above mentioned book there are chapters on the conversations we have with our kids and what we are putting up with that we shouldn't be.  Most of us grow used to dealing dysfunctionally within our own homes and we don't even see it.  That is why it is good to have outside resources pointing us back to truth.

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